Wife (42) and I (43) discussed possibly using penis sleeve since we are the only people we have each had sex with. I figured a sleeve may be a great option for her to try something different from what I have. We could always get a larger or different shaped dildo but a sleeve seems like it would be fun to play around with and most like having sex with somebody else, especially if she’s blindfolded.
I showed her some options of the custom made ones and based on how they make them it would be about 7-8” long and at 2-2.5” thick. She seemed intrigued by the idea but then said, “What if we try this and I’m like, whoa! This is it!” Would it ruin what we have?
We have a pretty active and exciting sex life and I definitely wouldn’t want to mess that up. I feel like that probably wouldn’t happen but, it was a good question. I’m slightly above average, and if she really liked a sleeve I would definitely use it more. But I guess it would suck if she was always wanting me to put the sleeve on lol.
Has anyone had similar experiences to what I’m describing? What’s your thoughts?
*Edit* I think everyone is pretty much confirming what I already thought. Figured I’d check what the response was here to make sure I just wasn’t off on my thoughts. I think it will be a fun new thing to try.
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It’s just a sex toy. Trying something new that may be enjoyable is not going to suddenly make her not enjoy something she enjoys now. One of you may end up wanting to use it more often than the other, but that’s what compromise is about.
>We have a pretty active and exciting sex life
So why risk that by introducing a sleeve at all?
Just do it, you two won’t regret it! Go bigger than you think you should.
It’s just a sex toy. Would you be asking this question about a dildo? because that’s all it is, is a dildo that fits over top of the penis.
Sex toys are not a replacement for sex with human beings.
Definitely won’t ruin anything. If you’re feeling insecure about it, make sure to let her know and ask her to be sensitive to your feelings.
I have come to realize that I just want my wife cum during sex (and other times of course but you know what I mean). If that means using toys that might make me feel a little self conscious or uncomfortable then fine. She always wants my dick no matter what we try cause cold silicone does not compare to warm throbbing dick.
I look at some of the Bad Dragon ones and they look like good sexy fun. Specially if she likes the being stretched I’d say go for it.
I’d recommend buying a suction cup dildo instead of a sleeve. Get one bigger and thicker than you.
She can try it and see if she likes bigger things. You can maybe incorporate it into your sex life together, she can ride it and suck you as an example.
She can use it on her own too. Maybe you can watch her using it 😈
But it won’t replace you. She’ll want the real thing.
My wife likes to use a dildo occasionally, and I bought her one bigger than me. But she has never said that she could only be satisfied by that thing. So don’t worry about it!
Check out r/PenisSleeve
There is a sub for nearly everything!
Hmm. Careful. This could go either way, though I hope it’s the better path.
I searched r/leopardsatemyface for ‘penis sleeve’ and even ‘dildo’ …. nothing comes up.
….so I guess there’s no men out there that have regrets going down this road.
Please report back how this goes
You could say that about a woman using a vibrator, couples using sex machines, a man using porn, free use, open relationship, etc. There are inherent risks of unintended consequences in everything we do. However, you probably know your wife pretty good by now, so do you really think she would prefer a synthetic sleeve compared to your above average size real cock? Personally, my wife would laugh hysterically at the preposterousness of the idea of replacing me with something artificial
Why would finding out what your wife likes be bad for your sex life?
My wife is a size queen. It is something that we stumbled upon similar to your story.
I am average. We have dildos and sleeves 2-3x bigger than I am. It has not ruined anything that we have. In fact it has enhanced it tremendously.
Just because you like something, doesn’t mean you want it all the time. And, who cares if you do end up wanting it all the time.
My wife loves oral sex. She loves my penis. She loves all her toys. She loves my fingers. She requests all of those things pretty much every sexual encounter we have.
It’s not like a switch was flipped and now she hates my penis unless it has a sleeve on it. On the contrary. She likes to switch things up even more now and appreciate the different pleasures all those things provide her.
My only piece of advice, before you spend big bucks on any toy. Be sure you understand her preferred depth and her preferred girth.
My wife loves girth, but really loves only about 5.5 – 6 inches max depth.
Banging on her cervix or anterior wall (if she does not like that) is not going to go over well and is going to be a big waste of money and a big turn off.
Same for girth. I don’t know what 2-2-5″ means from your post. Maybe 2 – 2.5″ inches is what you meant.
That is pretty darn big when it comes to toy girth. Unless you are well above average, that is going to take some getting use to.
YMMV
I have 4 of them at home. It’s only going to enhance what you two do together. Just remember use plenty of lube, maybe even eat an edible or two before going to pound town. Be careful with using silicone sleeves and silicone based lubricant. It can cause irritations and infections. Always go water based and wash them immediately after.
We tried a sleeve. I wanted to see how she would react to bigger. It was fun a few times but she did not like the length. Girth was fine. I can already hit her cervix.
Also tried a fuck machine, that is way more fun with several different sized dildos we can switch between quickly. It can go super slow or fast for hours. Whatever she wants. It’s fun to see how she reacts to some of those porn star fleshlight dildos. Manuel is too big, but Johnny hits all the spots.
Obviously everyone is different she may like the sleeve, but I think it will be just a fun tool to have in the toy box.
My fiancé tried it once with me and it was okay but not really something I would like all the time but definitely doesn’t replace the actual feeling of him that I love
There is a whole subredit about penis sleeves ! You should go check it out ! 😉 very helpfull !
I absolutely love your enthusiasm about this.
I adore the persuit of pleasure without ego.
I agree with all the posters, she may love it but no toy can replace you and you seem to actually know that and embrace that which is amazing!!..
Goodluck OP
For me, I love my partners pleasure. I would never not love his pleasure. So even if I loved the FEEL of the sleeve more than the feel of him, I would always also want just him. Partly for the closeness and partly because knowing he is feeling good inside me turns me on in a way nothing else does. I say get all the toys, have all the fun. As long as you both care about each other’s pleasure; how can you go wrong?
Also, get a flesh light for you. They are fun to use while she sits on your face or rims you, if y’all are into that….
Experiencing a bigger or different “penis” won’t preclude her from being able to enjoy you au naturale anymore than it would someone whose had multiple partners from being able to enjoy different sized penises. I wouldn’t worry about it.
I tried a sleeve for the first time a month ago. I am already borderline too long for my wife, but I wanted to see if an increase in girth would be better for her. In our case I think she enjoyed it but it cut off my circulation a bit. I’m not going to orgasm with it due to the coverage. We’ll play with it some more.
The sleeve won’t ruin your sex life unless she’s selfish and inconsiderate. There are stories on this subreddit of guys trying sleeves and their partner loses all interest in regular sex. She was being selfish and inconsiderate. Or she wasn’t that attracted to him in the first place, because in all their past sex sessions she was half-hearted, and when the sleeve was introduced she just demanded sleeve sex all the time.
> She seemed intrigued by the idea but then said, “What if we try this and I’m like, whoa! This is it!” Would it ruin what we have?
Is she unable to have sex unless the focus is 100% on her? Does she only use the biggest dildo? Does she get no joy out of making you happy?
If she’s willing to work through any feelings that come up with you then this shouldn’t ruin what you have. If she’s willing to focus on you sometimes and do things you like, then using the sleeve on her should be fine.
You’re sexual relationship seems great. This shouldn’t ruin that.
You wouldn’t feel anything really 2. 5 inch thick. Great for your partner but you’d be just going in an out. I’d be more looking for toys for her that will help. Buy a magic wand and bring that to the bedroom
Such an odd subject and yet brings to light a subject nobody wants to really talk about. It doesn’t sound like you as the mal suffer from size issues, but what you don’t state is if your other has had children. Kids do NO vagina favors and it’s not like a guy can tell his spouse ‘you’re loose and I’m having problem getting off” anymore than a wife can tell her husband “you’re small”. Essentially nobody can say the quiet things out loud. Thy just “deal” with it silently. Yuck.
Sure you can do the ole stretcharoo avenue or in my opinion a better option is start with ben wah balls for her. Tighten that thing up. You get to experience her naturally as does she you but because she’s tighter it’ll feel that much better and different for her.
You’ve already pretty much made up your mind at this point, so I know I don’t need to say anything to sway you.
What I do want to make clear for anyone reading through this thread is that using big sleeves gives you the ability to stimulate the vagina in ways that are impossible for most penis-owners. This is a good thing and it shouldn’t be viewed as anything but a benefit.
I recommend you learn about cervical orgasms and the stimulation via the Anterior or Posterior fornix zones (AFE/PFE). Most experiences with the cervix are painful because most people do not understand how to properly stimulate the cervix and slip the penis into the fornix zones. This is because most of the penis-owners walking this planet do not have penises long enough to actually get all the way into the fornix zones during sex. Instead they bang into the cervix head-on and cause the receiver pain. I have plenty of information and links if you’re interested. My post history is also filled with this info.
Cervical orgasms were the best discovery ever for my wife and me. They have literally changed our sex life and we would have never known about this if it wasn’t for our sleeve use.
I might wear one just so it would help me not ejaculate so easily. But not sure if my ego is ready for that jump yet. OP if yours is then just go for it.
Idk. I’d def like an update. Once she gets used to that how will it be? I think there are some well intentioned liars here lol.
Course not. It’s a tool and a toy.
Enjoy
Ive used them with different partners. It just adds some fun play…
Would a dildo ruin your sex life. It’s just an interactive dildo, nothing more.
We use one from time to time, but honestly it’s more of an anticipatory toy. Yes it’s fun to put the huge cock in my mouth and then slide it into me…but really it’s too big. I like his perfect sized cock as thats what gets me off. A few of the ones we have actually hurt so we don’t use those anymore.
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I’ve tried a few as I seem to have a perception that shell really enjoy bigger than me. It has never done anything for her and so I’ve learned that what I have is what she wants 🙂 Not even so much the size but the actual feel is just not same as me so it’s a non starter really. Shame as the reviews are awesome 🤣
I like using a sleeve now and then got a big one that makes me 9” and just bought a slightly smaller one that will make me 8, the other one is sometimes a bit too much for the wife and it’s about her after all. It’s important to note that usually it’s me who asks if she wants it and half of the time she’ll say no. It won’t ruin anything it’s just a little treat now and then