i (18F) have been seeing a guy (23M) who i’m really into for the past month and a half. he’s so sweet, funny, gentle, and we just get along really well. he treats me better than anyone i’ve ever met. he’s also very good looking.
this is just background information to say i’m insanely attracted to him. like, FIXATED on this dude. i used to watch porn pretty regularly to get off but it doesn’t even work on me anymore. i can’t get off because the guy in the video isn’t him so i get grossed out. even reading porn stories is ruined for me if the guy says something he wouldn’t say. can’t listen to porn audios because it doesn’t sound like his voice. literally nothing works anymore and it frustrates me.
him and i haven’t even gone past second base yet but i think about him sexually pretty often. it’s not that i ALWAYS am wanting to have sex with him — i love his company and just talking to him. it’s just concerning to me that he’s the only person i can sexually desire anymore.
i’ve been in love before but i’ve never been so sexually obsessed with a person. in past relationships, i could watch porn, fantasize about other people, etc. i can’t do any of that with him — i literally only want him. it’s also weird to me because we haven’t even had sex. i thought this might be part of the reason, but i’ve dated other people for longer periods of time before having sex and didn’t feel like this at all. what is it? why is he the only person i find attractive?

3 comments
  1. It’s a new relationship and that certainly contributes to your obsession over him. When you do have sex he may live up to your fantasy of him…and he might not! Have sex with him to find out is he everything you thought it would be or just your latest craze.

  2. He’s new and exciting, your brain is probably firing off dopamine and other bonding/sex hormones like crazy, and the porn just isn’t exciting like that.

    It will regulate itself eventually. I’m sure the anticipation of sex is making it more intense!

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