Why is sex so good for the first time with someone new then the second time y’all do it, it’s mediocre/bad?

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1. The first time the sex is just as bad as the second, but it’s more novel and exciting, like “damn I can’t believe this is actually happening”.

2. It’s probably just the excitement of being with someone new

3. It’s just the novelty. You’re less excited the second time.

4. I generally find it to be the exact opposite.

   First time sex is clunky and awkward. It gets better as I know the person.

5. Eh.. I always feel the first time is more to dip your toes and explore.. after that it gets better. That’s just my opinion.

6. Anticipation

7. Off the top of my head, two possibilities present themselves, either A. one or both of you were doing something wrong that made sex bad but you didn’t notice the first time around because the excitement of doing someone new was doing all the heavy lifting or B. you weren’t sexually compatible but didn’t notice at first due to the heady excitement of fucking someone new.

8. That is not true for everyone!

9. I think you might be doing it wrong.

10. People are different I find, me(man), thinks it gets better over time. Sure it was fun and nice the first time. Over time though, it gets better and better as I’m more comfortable with the woman and we are bonding, getting to know how to please each other and so on.

11. Novelty, probably.

    Though if you’re doing it right, it should get better.

12. Expectations?

13. I think it’s because it’s exciting. The first time I had had sex with this guy was after 8 months of flirting. It was awesome. It went so smoothly. I felt like I was drunk I loved it

    Men also seem to stop caring after the first time. No more cuddling after, getting you a towel, sharing water after, or trying to get you off.