Men here have said sex is the primary way they feel loved, needed, and valued. However men here also simultaneously say that they’d have sex with a wide range of women with little to no emotional connection. How can sex both mean absolute intimacy and no intimacy at all, at the same time? Is it just the presence of a relationship that determines which it is?
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>How can sex both mean absolute intimacy and no intimacy at all, at the same time?
It doesn’t. Different people feel different stuff. Emotional connections are based on what individuals feel for each other, or don’t feel, for that matter. The determination is entirely subjective to the individuals involved.
If you are just having sex with random strangers there isn’t going to be an emotional connection. That’s not optimal but plenty of people do it anyway.
You need to back way up and off of this ‘one size fits all’ approach just for starters.
Depends on the person
Unless guys are just walking up asking you if you wanna fuck and you respond “yea let’s go” you’re probably making some sort of connection before sleeping with them.
That’s the start of determining if it’s something with possibilities, maybe short term for starters, that could develop into something longer or deeper
You have the ultimate decision on the decisions you make – How far you want to go and when you want to go there. You make these decision based on your judgement, instinct and desire. They’re not all going to be the right decision – but that’s a big part of the learning process
There’s no way of knowing this. Some people stare into your eyes, some people keep the lights on, literally anything could or may not mean something to someone else