Have you ever met a significant other that made you change yourself from the get go? How’d it go?

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1. When I met my wife 21 years ago I stopped smoking cigarettes because she didn’t smoke. She never asked me to but I felt like it couldn’t hurt.

   Still happily married with 2 children.

2. Depends on the motivation for change. Some change is good if baggage is effecting the relationship. But if it’s just controlling type stuff it’s toxic, some people can tolerate a life of that, others can’t.

3. No. I changed because I wanted to.

4. Depends, do they make me want to change? Or do they just want to change you? I’m not an art project haha.

5. A girl made me feel 100% loved and accepted the way I was (going through a rough patch). That made me even more determined to be a better person, and we overcame a lot of problems that year

6. I found someone with way better communication skills than I had, which I wanted. It was actually quite hard to work through, but I totally changed those patterns and then massively more.
   But it was 100% all in a direction I saw benefit in.

7. I wouldn’t say she “made” me do anything but I went vegetarian and then vegan for an ex girlfriend.

   I fucking HATED being vegan. Giving up meat wasn’t really difficult but I love cheese, sour cream and milk waaaaay too much.

   Looking back I should have just ate what I wanted but you know how it be sometimes. The “little soldier” was driving at the time. And to his credit she was a blast in that regard.

8. This is toxic as fuck, any partner trying to change their partner is insecure as hell and i define this as abuse. I have seen it over the long run and it sucks for everyone. Only time I saw it successful the couple are happily married except they haven’t had sex in 20 years….

   Fix yourself and care for your partner or find a new partner.