Discouraged

I (28F) started seeing a guy (30M) from bumble about a month ago and I thought it was going really well! We texted all the time, had gone out on about 3 dates (he took a trip in the month which cut down on availability to get together) and then he invited me over to his place to cook me dinner.

We ended up sleeping together after dinner, and I had even asked him point-blank if this was just about sex for him or if he wanted to keep seeing me. (He said of course he wanted to keep seeing me) And we had talked numerous times over the month about wanting a relationship and being ready for something serious.

The few days after dinner though, he didn’t text as much. He told me he was busy at work, and then with family stuff. I asked to grab dinner and see each other the next week, he agreed. And then cancelled the day of for a (I think) legitimate family reason. But then the communication was still slow. So I waited a few more days, and then realized he had updated his bumble profile and photos. So I texted him and asked if he was still interested in seeing me. And he finally wrote back and said he was but his family stuff made him realize he wasn’t in a place to date.

I’m just so frustrated and feel deceived. He definitely might be telling the truth about his family stuff, but he clearly also wasn’t done with online dating. After he texted me that, he unmatched me on bumble. I feel so dumb for believing that he wanted to be with me and wasn’t just using me for sex. I just wanted to rant a little. Thanks 😞