Women who have been gaslighted by their SO, how did you trust yourself enough to know it wasn’t you causing all the issues?

2 comments

1. It takes a very long time and a lot of therapy. Gaslighting is such a “popular” control tactic by abusers because it WORKS. It also does long-term psychological damage that’s very difficult to recover from without professional help. From my own experience and talking to other victims of domestic violence, it typically takes several years of work to start learning to trust yourself again, and even decades after the fact it is easy to slip into it again.

2. Therapy and proofs.

   I kept a list of things to remind myself it wasn’t me. When that failed, my therapist would gently remind me of the situations and give her opinion on them. It felt validating to hear someone else agree I wasn’t wrong.