A few days ago was my first time trying sex w my bf. It look a 2 dif times to get it in bc the first day we tried it wouldn’t go in properly. Then the next time we tried it went it but only the head and it was extremely painful so we stopped. We tried it abt 3 dif times and it me hurt so much every time that only the head went it. I was not like extremely horny but was wet and we had lube. I’m not sure if this is vaginismus or maybe I was just nervous. Any tips pls to have it not hurt
It also did hurt when he put his finger in there another time, but hasn’t hurt when I’ve put one in myself
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Do u have pain when u use tampons?
Maybe get some advice here from someone else who had that problem and got through it.
You could take Ibuprofen 30min before to help with the pain and inflammation. It hurts some people more than others – I had extreme pain, almost blacked out and bled a lot the first time… while my sister was fine. We failed at least 4/5 times before I just said do it, and then it was easier/less painful afterwards.
Have you taken a mirror and looked at your hymen ?
You may have more of a hymen than other people. This could be cause a lot of pain.
Did you see any blood or feel like it kind of stung afterwards. Almost like a paper cut in your vagina?
Or was it more of a painful sensation inside of your vagina ?
You may also have vaginismus if you’re finding penetration incredibly painful.
I had this issue when I was younger and I could barely get a finger in there.
He may also just be too big for you
You might be gay