I (M22) was a club the other night with my girlfriend (F21) and a some of her friends (All female). I was at the bar talking with a guy about fishing while waiting on my drink and when I came back to the group I saw my girlfriend sitting at a table with 4 Hispanic guys (I am stating the race because their English was not that good) likely around late 20s maybe early 30s. Her friends all said she went over as a joke because they were looking at them (group of girls) all night. I tried explaining to her why this made me upset and how I didn’t like it. I know how guys can think and especially if they were looking at her and her friends all night I don’t understand why you would go over to them for a “joke” and not to get their attention. She said “nothing was going to happen and it was just a joke” and eventually apologized but still refuses to even understand why I’d be upset. All her friends who were there agreed with her and I’d ask my friends but I would like unbiased opinions.
I need advice on my next step.
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Next step – leave.
You are right, the whole point in her going over was to get their attention.
She doesn’t see that she disrespected your relationship with her actions.
She doesn’t see that she put herself in a dangerous situation – men alone are known to get aggressive when the object of their attention denies them, what does she think a group of men would do.
I’m guessing that her friends are single, as none of their partners were there, so why didn’t one of them go and sit with them for their “joke” , because they knew it was not a joke, and not safe.
Next up, go over to a group of girls in front of her and let her know it’s a joke. While you are there, try and get a couple of numbers from them too.