I’m panicking over my sexuality and can use this community as a sounding board.
I think women are hot and I was just checking out a hot girl at the store but when I tried to imagine if I would be able to fuck her doggy-style if she took off her pants for me I felt no arousal and I don’t think I’d be able to go through with it. However, I can easily imagine going down on her, or giving a guy a blowjob, or taking it in the ass because I don’t have to count on my erection.
As you can probably tell I have anxiety issues but I don’t have a sounding board except my own head and it helps to air out my thoughts here.
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You get to decide what you are, and you can change your mind. It’s called experimenting for a reason. Many things sound good (or not) until you try them. Also, sexuality can change over time. Try not to worry about the label, and instead find a safe person you feel comfortable with and then see what you like.
I think you would benefit from separating your sexual interests from your anxiety.
Of course that’s a difficult assignment for a lot of people. But there are many ways to make progress at it.
Also, fantasies are a useful way to explore what you’re interested in…up to a point. I think it’s pretty common for people to discover that real-life sexual experiences arouse or enchant them in ways that the fantasy versions never could. I suggest you should leave that door open until you have a better handle on your anxiety issues.
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I don’t think this has anything to do with sexuality. You are just anxious about keeping it up or using your dick right. Masturbate more, edge, see how long you can last. Hump your pillow, Stimulate yourself more to thoughts of having sex with someone. It’s okay and the more you get off thinking about using your dick, the easier it will become to do it when the time comes!