7 months ago I got into my first relationship. I love her very very much and she feels the same about me. and both of our first times were together.
But prior to me, around a year ago she was with a guy for a month, and they apparently had some sort of sexual contact.
He hurt her and I know for certain that she doesn’t like him. But I just can’t shake the thought that she got intimate with another guy… I get the concept that “the world doesn’t wait for you”, but I’d love to get some advice on how to deal with the situation.
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I understand your feelings but they aren’t reasonable I went through a similar phase many years ago and you hace to accept everyone has a past and focus on the present and future
And you were probably intimate with someone else. Are you sure you not having issues bc your guilty too?
Why does her past matter to you? They dated for **one month** and he hurt her. I guarantee she doesn’t think about him in any positive way. In fact she problem hates him, and regrets ever doing anything with him. Presuming you’re a good guy, she’s probably much happier with you than she ever was with him. It’s not like she’s dreaming about him and the things they used to do together, otherwise she’d be with him not you. So why does it matter? She chose to be with you. Be happy about it
Are you like, jealous of him, or her? Because it sounds like you’re obsessed with him. Do you want to have some sort of sexual contact with him too? If not, you’re just being possessive and maybe picking up a book on feminism will help you realize you’re not entitled to your girlfriend’s sexual autonomy.