Problem is when we’re having sex, I’m so overwhelmed. It’s not just from the PIV itself, it’s the sound, smells, visuals. I had a 20 year dead bedroom but have been single and sexually active for 2 years now, I should be acclimated by now?
Often time I just grip the bedsheets and almost get….frustrated? It feels amazing but too intense? (I have only had orgasms from clitoral stimulation but think I could with with PIV as I can squirt from fingering fairly easily)
**How do I get myself to stop being so overwhelmed by it all?**
Edit: I don’t have sensory issues in my life. It’s only focused with penetrative sex.
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Talk to your partner. They need to know exactly how you feel. And maybe try something where you have conplete control. Ride him. You be on top controlling pace and all that. You put his hands where you want them on your body. Try different things together and see what works and work up to it all.
Use Your Words. Talk to your partner and experiment with sexual, intimate play that does not cause this sense being overwhelmed for you. This could be anything! Use it as a point of exploration for both of you. And, of course, there’s lots of room for compromise if your partner indicates that they need PIV sometimes. Maybe you can work on finding positions and/or rhythms, etc. that do not provoke those feelings as much.
Talk to your partner, but I’d heavily recommend trying some form of sensory deprivation?? Spice things up in the bedroom, but make it easier for you by introducing a blindfold or earplugs!