My boyfriend and I have been exploring more sexually, and I’m the first person he’s tried doing sexual things with. He doesn’t masturbate like how most men do since he does it by grinding on the bed with clothes on. I’ve seen him cum from this method. I recently tried giving him head and a handjob but he says bare skin contact hurts him even if I lube it up with my saliva. It’s not my first time giving head and men I’ve slept with before have never complained, usually complimenting me at it. I don’t know what to do and I feel bad because I really want to make him feel good. Any advice?
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Maybe have him masturbate however he wants an hour or so beforehand so the sensation isnt built up or have him put a condom on. Just gonna have to try different things together to see what works.
The best thing is for him to figure this out himself by touching himself. If you want to join in the fun, then cuddle with him, play with yourself dirty talk him, stroke his skin, lick at his nipples while he does it. Once he finds out what works for him, he can help you do the same. And if he can’t figure it out on his own, then you’re likely going to be frustrated trying.
If it turns out he really can’t tolerate any direct physical contact, you’ll have to decide if the two of you are willing to experiment with other things (touching him through clothes, etc.) while finding ways to also pleasure you.
Tbh, fabric is much rougher than a tongue is, so if he can tolerate grinding against fabric, this probably has nothing to do with actual texture and real “pain”. It’s more likely psychological. Something about being touched is overwhelming for him, which he may genuinely experience as “pain”. The best way for him to start getting over that is to get used to touching himself.
There are numbing creams. Maybe try them? A challenge indeed.