I am trying to heal from being roofied two years ago. It isn’t very fun, and some days are worse than others.
I recently had a guy come into my life when I was not expecting it, and from the get go, I was very honest about what I was going through.
This guy stood by me through a panic attack, needing space/pushing him away, sharing about my medical issues & my word vomit I tend to do when I get anxious. He also knows I have a crush on him. He knows all of it.
He let me know today that he thought I was a special person despite my struggles, and would always cherish my kind words. He then asked if he could come visit me in the future (long distance)
I’m still just in shock. I never once was mean to him, or blamed him, but I have just never, ever had this type of effort made.
How, what why where do I go from here??
TL;DR guy I like still wants to be with me after knowing all my trauma
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lighting do not strike twice in a roof.. take the bait.
Sounds like you found a keeper! Take it slow and enjoy getting to know each other more.
Slowly, allowing things to develop at their own pace. Show him the patience he’s showing you.
Not all of us are bastards, sounds like you’ve found a good one.
Everybody has trauma or something that they aren’t proud of. We all have issues. The question is whether we allow it power over us or not.
I recommend you really healing that experience and find closure before you actually start dating. It’s going to impact your relationship.
Also, it could be that he has codependency issues and a low self worth and is lonely. Heal yourself first and then examine him closer. It would be ironic if you find closure, start dating him only to find out his unaddressed issues are now impacting you and then it’s your turn to do the saving.
We need to save ourselves first