I’m a refugee turned America and I just can’t keep up with social media. The pics and vids. I have no interest and I just can’t do it, as someone who survived hell and came to the safety of America. To take pics/vids. I go on dating sites and am asked for my snap and insta etc and I don’t have any. I meet someone in person and they ask for it .. when I say J don’t have any they hesitate and leave. I’m text and talk on a phone. I have gotten numbers and been ignored. They only text and send pics/vids. Am I hopeless in America? I live in a college town and I see the young literally inventory their lives on social media. And the 30 something women are the same. I feel lost. How to meet someone when you have to be tech savvy but find no joy or happiness in using them? Go back to my country and marry someone in my culture/language and bring her here? Or can I actually find a lovely amazing women in my adopted country? I’m lost and appreciate the help, tips, suggestion and most important .. constructive criticism! Old soul looking for love/marriage but can’t find it with the need for social media creds .. East coast college town by major North East cities
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I’m 30f and same thing. People on a dating app will ghost if you don’t have social media, which I don’t. Maybe they think you’re a bot, or an older person posing as younger, or weirded out that they can’t creep you before meeting you?? Anyways, same experience on the other side!!
Honestly, you’re gonna have to pick one and use it. We connect online in this country, and it’s going to hurt your chances of making friends and meeting people if you don’t have some way to connect with them. I get that posting your life is weird, so maybe an app called meetup would be good. You can find people to hang out with in real life & see what others around you are interested in.
… (35m & American) I don’t have really any social media. I think Reddit is as close as I’ve gotten. Idk I just see what it does to people, how they communicate, what it’s done to teenagers and their developing minds. It’s pretty disturbing to me and I don’t think snapshots curated by people who are actively trying to look their best is a healthy way to learn about someone. So I relate to this in a lot of ways.
I had a girl who broke it off with me because when she looked up my name found nothing. No social media. She thought it was weird. Doesn’t bother my life in anyway. They also think I’m lying about it as well. No, I really don’t have any. Tried a bunch of them and never liked them so all got deleted. Still plenty of girls around the areas I live to cold approach though. I’m living on the West coast and northern West coast so I get a bit of travel in.
You don’t need social media I just starting using it like a month ago it’s cool and whatnot but I don’t need it it’s not not like it improved my life its nice to talk to other humans in the world though it’s a nice reminder that there’s other people with other experiences and life’s