How would you define being spoiled in a relationship?

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2. I only really use that word in the contexts of sexual pleasure (i.e. being “spoiled” with lots of orgasms) or money (i.e. being “spoiled” by meals or gifts my partner buys me, as part of our consensually negotiated dynamic).

3. When I hear “spoil”, I think effort. Maybe a long back massage.

4. For me being “spoiled” is someone who is thoughtful. Like doing little things for me or knowing things that I like. I don’t want anyone to spend their money on me.

5. In a good context; when my husband is really thoughtful with an action or gift or words. When he goes out of his way to “treat” me or make me feel extra special. Could be for a thought holiday or birthday gift, but could also be having a candle lit bubble bath and glass of wine prepared for you when you get home after a long day at work.

6. When your partner is giving and gives more than your anticipate or expect (also with no expectation of you to do the same).

7. Taking a load off my plate and making things easier. Being reliable and a good provider in all aspects. Taking care of things before asking. Or even doing nice beneficial things that I didn’t see coming. Giving gifts, surprises or treats just because you feel like it.