Men, how often in your dating lives have you ran into a Fwb situation?

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1. Never. Every single one has developed feelings.

2. It never lasts long. One of us always gets feelings and someone always ends up getting hurt

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4. Thrice.

5. Once, and never again

6. Twice both very unfulfilling.

7. Never.

8. Only once. I thought it would be pretty cool!

   But when she was like “ok, you can go now” I felt..let’s just say it’s not for me. lol

   However, it did teach me that I much prefer committed relationships vs NSA/FWB/ONS

9. Three times.

10. I’ve been in a fwb type situation many times. I’m in a couple right now. My past girlfriends also started off in a fwb role.

11. Handful of times, primarily off tinder.

    I’m pretty short but it helps to be in shape, have an attractive face (from what other people say), and have a nice package down there.

12. Several times. I’ve had much better luck finding fwbs than relationships

13. Once and never again lol no thanks to complicated.

14. So far? Nevaaaaaaaahhhhhh

15. Never

    *Sound of silence starts to play*

16. Im not stupid enough to be in that kind of situation.

17. Never! I mean I’ve never gotten anywhere close to a date. I’m not anything special tbh

18. Twice. Both failed because one of use caught feelings for the other.

19. I had a work FWB for 5 years and another that only lasted a few months until she got into a serious relationship.

20. Often I have more fwb situations than relationship

21. Quite a bit. Especially if you’re talking any repeated thing as a “FWB” rather than solely people I’d call actual friends.

22. Several; the best policy is to explicitly say you’re not looking for a serious relationship. You’ll get fewer people interested, but you raise your odds with those who are. I had the best success on Tinder and one from Fetlife (the the latter is a little more geared towards that).

    Pro tip! Join the military and deploy, then tell potential dates your situation… plenty of folks want to bang military guys (mostly joking here, don’t join the military just to do this lol, though this did work for me once).

23. In the 15 years since my divorce, 3 long-term FWB’s and a few short-term. Still in a FWB that has gone for quite awhile – neither of us have any intention of marrying again.

    The other two long term FWB’s ended because they decided to commit to someone they were seeing before we met. They are both still friends w/o benefits, though I still fondly remember the times spent with one of them.

24. I’m simply not attractive enough for this type of arrangement lol

25. Plenty of times, it’s fun and the expectations aren’t super high so both people act more natural

26. Zero, have had the opportunity, would not

27. A few times. But it was more, we were friends long before and it just kinda happened.
    Not since my mid 20s though. They’re all married/kids now :/

28. Never

29. It’s harder to get a relationship than to get a fuck buddy situation. So I’d say pretty often.

30. I’ve been in many FWB relationships. In my experience, these only happen when the woman wants you more than you want her. Women, for the most part, aren’t into FWB. They are accepting that kind of relationship because it’s the best they can get from you and they think they can get you to commit eventually.

    FWB is the female equivalent of being friend-zoned. It’s being fuck-zoned. They giving what you want (sex) without getting what they want (commitment, security, attention, validation, favors, money, time, etc.).

    Just like friend-zoning, fuck-zoning is a fundamentally exploitative relationship. Just like women dangle the implied possibility of sex to keep a man in a friend-zone relationship, men are dangling the implied promise of eventual commitment to women in the fuck-zone. One party gets what they want, the other party gets an empty promise.

31. Several times, they’re my prefered kind of intimacy so I do actively look for these situations

32. Once worst mistake of my life.