Begging for help again

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1. SAME BRO, SAAAMMEEEE

2. If you cannot be alone, a relationship will not fulfill you, it will just open a huge range of other problems. You need to work towards feeling fulfilled being by yourself.

3. You’re hormonal

4. Focus on improving yourself, your attractiveness, and making friends. Just be chill and have fun.

5. Stop putting women on a pedestal. They are humans too. Talking to women is a special case of talking to people in general. Stop seeking their attention, validation, approval, or reassurance. Instead, Genuinely connect with them in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.

6. Fill that emotional dependency with you alone, if you need someone to complete you, it will cost you to enter a relationship and if you get that relationship, it will probably be toxic because it is full of fears of losing it, jealousy will also increase with that and it will cause it to be more toxic because if you lose it, you lose an emotional part of yourself. Love yourself more, meditate if you want, meditating constantly helps a lot to love yourself more.

7. I was in your shoes man. I was very clingy on my gf but she was cold towards me tho. Its better for the both of us that we broke up also she live far away so it was mostly long distance stuff. Lesson learned: dont be needy and have your own life

8. I wouldn’t necessarily say “stop putting women on a pedestal,” you absolutely can for the right one, or any one that you’re with. I would however, mention that nobody wants to be on a pedestal alone. Value yourself, as yourself as your own entity, then and ONLY THEN, can you truly appreciate someone with reciprocity.

9. my advice, stop watching porn, shit fucks with your head

10. Gonna have to unsub from this subreddit because this is the 80th post ive seen like this in a week.

11. Go masturbate and reevaluate this statement