34M Alchohalic I want to get sober for my health was reading some comments from guys who got sober “Because the love of my life motivated me to get healthy”

10 comments

1. It’s not about having a wife specifically but having a support system, and they probably got into those relationships prior to their decline from full blown alcoholism.

   People who aren’t addicts themselves generally aren’t going to enter into a relationship with someone who are approaching the point of no return with their addictions.

2. I feel I’m gonna get sober with you, can we get to know each other? (F29)

3. I got sober because I have alcoholics in my family and saw the damage alcohol caused to family/friends/relationships. I also hated myself while I was drinking. I saw myself heading down that same path as my family members, that was my motivation for not drinking. Life has gotten so much better 3 years later, but it took a lot of commitment and patience with myself to get here.

   I’d highly recommend looking into therapy and antidepressants because that made a huge difference for me when I stopped drinking.

4. don’t wait for a partner to magically appear, get help NOW. work on SELF

5. Try an AA meeting. There is a sense of fellowship there with people who care.

6. Women are the main reason for slowly killing yourself with alcohol.. I should know… I’m drunk now. And will forever be

7. Don’t pin this on another person. Instead.. Ask yourself, what do you want and why?

   If you want to get sober, why wait for someone to show up for it? Would that be fair to the person that may walk into your life?

   What you need, most likely, is a circle of people you can trust. A support system. Friends, family anything. Which is why you think about a partner, is my guess. You need and want support. Because, If you have that, then you can try things to get slowly out of it better. But my advice would be to seek friends or a group if people that struggle like you do, instead of a partner. Because addiction is terrible for romantic relationships.

   But let me be honest. You will have setbacks, you will break and fall back onto it. Im not sugar coating it. You will feel cravings and thinking „it will always be this way“.

   Getting out of any addiction is a journey and a long and painful one at that. You need to find coping mechanisms that work better, to deal with life easier. And that takes time work + trial n error. And maybe one day you can survive without the substance.

8. Well my step dad is still a raging alcoholic so..

9. Do you have other things in your life that excite you, bring you joy? Do you have friends, family?

10. You say you’re a writer. Alcohol is actively killing your brain and making you less creative. The great writers who were alcoholics could’ve been better writers had they not wrecked their bodies like that. There are things you could still experience that you are cutting yourself off from by drinking. You won’t form any lasting relationships if you keep going like that. You won’t experience true joy. Is the buzz really worth living a full life? Go to an AA meeting. That would be a start, not looking for a relationship.