Is it normal to feel hyper self aware in social situations? I feel like I don’t know how to act in lack of better words. Growing up my parents moved to a new country and we almost never went to go out with friends and had no family. So most of my friends were surface level and I don’t go out much right now. I’m 22 years old and I do work and go to school and communicate properly when it comes to those settings. It only happens when I’m around certain people or groups that I feel more shy and uncomfortable around. I feel like I black out and have no control over how I’m talking or facial expressions ( pretty much I feel awkward). I want to do something to help it and stop judging myself so hard before anyone even gets a chance to.
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It’s normal and it’s very frustrating. It sounds like you’ve had some particularly discouraging interactions recently. I’m also hearing that maybe settings with more structure provide you with more secure guidelines for conversation. Outside of that, you might feel lost or look to others for the “right” way to take the interaction. Sometimes it can help to just say how you’re feeling in the moment. It’s challenging and takes courage, but I hope you continue pushing through that awkwardness.