I have known this person for a long time, about 8 years. We haven’t been close all this time but we know each other since then. Rcently we became college students together. What is the problem? I like her and respect her but I noticed most of our other colleagues do not like her. She is also not a very easy get-along kinda person. Most of the peoole have some kind of problem with her. In our line of work, friendships and relationships matter a LOT. Your livelihood is affected by it. One wrong move, and you may be affected forever. I recently thought about significantly reducing the time I spend with her, because I don’t want to be associated with her. Maybe even completely. This is the first time in 26 years of my life that I was in a situation like this. Am I being a horrible person? A coward? Or am I doing the right thing?
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You said you respect her, so yes, I think it would be cowardly to shun her. If she had wronged someone in some way then perhaps it would be different, but even so, should we be so quick to throw people away? Perhaps you could use this as an opportunity to strengthen your character. Think about the kind of person you wish you were- what would they do in this situation?
How is it cruel? If you don’t like her, then ditch her. Tell her the friendship isn’t working out.
Morality is fluid and un-constant.
So here’s the question to understand and answer instead – Is she still your friend, or is she an obstacle to your professional success? Either answer is right enough, but what you think in that moment of asking will better inform you of what you want than anything anyone here says.