I never thought such a short dating period would screw me up so bad, but it did. I dated a girl for just 1.5 months, it’s now 2 months later and i still think of her all the time. I think i have idealized her because of the short time i had with her. Maybe i have created a fantasy of her in my head?
I think the problem is i’ve only seen her in the same settings on all the dates: us cuddling on the couch, talking, being intimate and watching movies. So it’s only fun and feel good chemicals and feeling really comfortable. I only seen her best sides as we tried to impress each other. My image of her is probably far from how reality with her would really be?
I’ve never experienced a difficult situation with her, never seen her outside the house, i’ve never even woken up next to her or spend a full day together. It was all too short to see any flaws or dislikes. It was short and fun so i only remember the positive. The only negative i can focus on is that we didn’t have a strong spark or chemistry and that intimacy wasn’t that good. We never had one deep or meaningful conversation either, even though we talked all day. But it’s as if my mind can only focus on the positive and on what could have been.
I feel like i went trough a very short honeymoon-phase with her, and then it ended. We had 7 dates and then her ex came back who she apparently still had feelings for. She also seemed really upset when she ended it with me, which only made it worse for me. Now i’m left with all the questions of how it could’ve been if it had continued.. She lives near me, is my type and we’re almost the same age, so i feel like that’s hard to find again. I also feel like if i had known her longer, i might’ve found out about a lot of incompatibilities. How do i move on from all these unanswered questions?