I was just thinking about this right now bc I’m seeing this girl who is so sweet, extremely beautiful, kind, nice, but I wish we could be closer and it seems like she’s maybe taking things slow since she’s never been in a relationship.
What I love about this girl is that she’s so conscientious and mindful. She appreciates the time and effort that I put for planning dates, she offers to pay for things sometimes, always super grateful no matter how small it is, and that is EXTREMELY valuable to me.
Only bad thing about this girl is that we’ve been seeing each other for like 1 mont now, and i asked her what she was looking for and she basically just wanted to see where things go, which to me is kind of code for casual dating, which is fine but ya. It feels kind of just like a situationship.
There’s this other girl who I’ve only been on 3 dates with but we connect so well. Like I think there’s a spark there and I could see a potential flame there. It’s like we have that same trauma or hurt, and we both know it, and yet we haven’t said anything or said it explicitly.
I met her roommates and friends already, like I still think it’s early, but we cuddled for like 3-4 hours every date.
At the same time though she seems unstable and doesn’t have that maturity that that other girl has. She told me she’s scared of liking someone and I think she mumbled that she was falling for me when we were cuddling but idk.
Also the good thing about this girl is that I think we both would like each other enough to enter a relationship, I kind of got the idea that she had deep feelings for me when I was over at her place and we were cuddling and she would plead with me not to leave until I had to like tuck her in to sleep.
I feel like the first girl would be a better long term partner, but the second girl would also maybe have the potential to. E s good long term partner. what are the best tell tale signs that someone is a good long term partner or that things will last.