Wife has never had an orgasm. We’re both 30, have been together since we were 19. She has never had anyone else – I was her first. Tried so many things over the years but just can’t help but wonder if we’re just not sexually comparable or if it’s a mental block on her end. She doesn’t / won’t masturbate to achieve it on her own, and she has suggested maybe an MFM threesome might be a good idea, or for her to try someone else…
I was never really open to the idea, but as time goes by I just want her to enjoy an orgasm like everyone else that gets to enjoy them, and I’d feel bad for her to live her whole life without one so at this point whatever it takes for her is good with me.
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>She doesn’t / won’t masturbate
It’s going to be real hard to see what she’s in to and what gets her “there” if SHE doesn’t even know. Why on earth won’t she masturbate?
She is suggesting to get fucked by another man and thinks it will help her O? Oh lord I’ll pray for u…. I don’t even know where to start. How disrespectful first off. Instead of working on herself sexually with u she would rather run to another man
Well there are lots of things you can try like using toys… a magic wand is a great toy which can be used during foreplay and intercourse…. Also you can get some really good dildo vibrators.
She can also read erotic novels to get excited or try romantic or couples porn (mfm porn) if that’s what she likes..
an mfm threesome or opening the relationship could work but could also be terrrible for your relationship.. a lot would need to be discussed ..
But I would recommmend the toys I said and also watch Caitlin v how to make a girl squirt on you tube… using the fingering technique on her g spot plus a magic wand I would be surprised if she doesn’t cum… I can make my gf cum in just a few mins using this method.
Good luck and hope it helps. Have a nice day 👍
Have you considered sex therapy for the two of you? The fact she doesn’t want to masturbate to figure out what she actually likes…is kind of weird in an adult. There must be something going on here and the fact she wants a threesome, implies it isn’t some religious SEX IS EVIL thing.
I mean, it is great that she is voicing her fantasies, but as it is exactly one fantasy and you aren’t into it, it doesn’t really help. Is there really nothing else she finds arousing beyond two guys at the same time? I mean, I can sympathise. Two guys are hot as hell, but most of us have a multitude of exciting scenarios to choose from, most of which don’t include extra people.
Her to sleep with another man is your conclusion to the problem!
Seriously!
Your wife needs to learn how to get herself off and then teach you. There is ZERO chance a threesome will get the job done for the first time. Is she able to climax? Has she ever been close with activities you’ve engaged in? What arouses her to near the point of climax? I don’t know of many cases where a man can “give’ an orgasm to a woman who doesn’t know how to get her body there on her own. It’s that important! She needs to take responsibility for her own pleasure if this is a joint goal. She just wants to fuck someone else.
Ask her how she expects someone else to make her orgasm without her knowing how to herself? It would be like a blind person trying to direct someone else through a maze.
The fact that she’s suggesting a threesome or having sex with someone else, and kind of implying that you’re the problem, is concerning
If she can’t even orgasm herself it gonna be really hard for a man to help her get there.
I had my first with my first bf. But not because of sex. Not because he was magical at giving orgasm.
He simply helped me understand my body by exploring it together with me. Helped me understand what masturbation technique would work for me. By exploring. When I could masturbate and get orgasm that way it was way easier to get it through sex.
> she has suggested maybe an MFM threesome might be a good idea, or for her to try someone else…
Bad idea. And if you go through with something like this and she is able to orgasm with another guy, do you really think you’ll be good with that?
Are you asleep?
Brilliant idea, let her fuck someone else. What if she gets one, would you be upset because you saw someone else do something to your wife that you couldn’t achieve? This is a setup for failure, the incredible disrespect in my opinion aside.
She’s trying to blame you or make you feel guilty. I understand her frustration, it can be so frustrating to try so hard and not get there. But it’s harder for any woman to O with a new person. I think she’s curious if there are moves that another guy has that might be different.
But the other comments are correct, this is not the way. She has to make herself orgasm. Try toys, dildos, vibrators, suction toys, etc. you can suggest using them together but she needs to hold the toys and learn where it feels best.