Should I reach out when I’m in her city?

I [29m] and her [28f] matched randomly on tinder when I had it set to her city (I used to visit that city a lot but haven’t in a while). We live 3 hours apart

We clicked instantly and talked all the time for a couple of weeks, we literally have everything in common even down to unique life experiences. We had planned to meet at the end of the month in a mutual location equal distance from us. We spoke for about 3 weeks in total but the last week her energy dropped as she just started a new job and was stressed and she was grieving a lost family member.

Anyway, she ended it stating that she’s not long been out of an abusive relationship and she struggled with emotion, attachment and even being able to see her friends is a massive deal to her since she was never allowed to. Also mentioned the fact that we clicked instantly and it got a bit intense for her and the fact that the 3 hour distance could be an issue plus the issues from the previous paragraph. This will be 2 weeks next week.

My best mate said we should go visit our mates and get an airbnb in her city, he doesn’t know about her so it’s purely a coincidence. We’ve booked it now so I’ll be there for a few days at the end of the month and was wondering if I should reach out to her to see if she wants to meet up?

I’ve proposed to myself that I’ll send her a message a couple of days before we arrive and say that I appreciate we no longer talk but I’d still like to meet you and give her the option of choosing what, based on how comfortable she is so either coffee/lunch/drinks/night out. I’ll also state that it’s friendly chill vibes and that I’m not going to mention what’s happened as I just want to meet her really.

I worry she will say yes and then pull out last minute which will probably result in me blocking her which would be a shame because the last few messages we shared we put everything right and it was amicable with no bad vibes.

Should I do it and does anyone have any other opinions on what I should say? I plan on sending one message with all the relevant information and saying that if she’s not up for it she can just ignore and I’ll leave it at that.

Thanks

TLDR: Met someone online, went really well for a few weeks, she broke it off due to work stress, recent abusive relationship and our 3 hour distance. I’m in her city end of the month, do I reach out to see if she’d want to meet?