I (21f) hate dating in the midwest so much. I feel like I’m surrounded by a bunch of farm boys, Christians, Republicans, etc. and while nothing is wrong with that, I don’t tend to have a lot in common with these people. A lot of people describe me as “goth” (I don’t really think I’m goth, I just wear dark colors and have dyed hair lmao) or “artsy” and my type tends to gravitate towards guys with a similar aesthetic/interests. I’ve tried going on dates with guys who I don’t find /as/ physically attractive as well as with guys who fall outside of my “type” but I’ve had no luck with any of them.
Also, I’ve used dating apps while vacationing in places like NYC and LA and both swiped right on a lot more people as well as matched with more people (might be due to sheer number of people, but I live in a pretty big city myself, it’s just in the Midwest). And I know the dating scenes in NYC and LA have their own problems, but I haven’t been on a date in forever despite being pretty active on apps, meeting new people through friends, work, etc. I’m not hard pressed to be in a relationship at the moment but I think casually dating is fun and I haven’t had sex in forever LOL. I feel like I’m doing as best as I can but any advice would be appreciated </3
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It takes more time and effort than swiping and texting on the apps, but I think you need to go to the few places in your area where the cool people go. That certain bookstore, record store, coffee place, bar, gallery, music venue, etc. Wherever there’s a concentration of outsider types and the normals that are more interesting/less conservative than most people in your city. Forgive me if this is too obvious!