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Posting here because its really the only place I can think of to vent this – if there’s a better subreddit for this please do let me know.
I’m 23M and have been single for about 4 years now. Tried to put myself out there in the dating world multiple times since then, to no avail. I’ve asked for advice and gotten the generic “go to the gym” and “work on yourself” advice countless times. Well, I’ve put on almost 30 pounds of mostly muscle, worked a lot on improving my mental health, bought a new wardrobe, and remain career-driven and goal oriented. All of this to say, I STILL cannot get anyone to go on a date with me. Apps don’t work. Meeting someone organically in “real life” doesn’t work – I’m starting to think there’s something wrong with me. Before you assume I’m ugly or something, I’d say I’m probably an average or slightly-above average looking guy as far as facial features go. What is there left to do? Give up?
It’s worth mentioning I’m not interested in participating in hookup culture. I don’t approach conversations with people from a “what can I get from this person” space that it seems so many guys do. I really want to get to know people and find the one.
I generally feel men are attracted to me but after speaking to me they all give me the same answers. I think you deserve someone better than me, I don’t think I’m the perfect guy for you but I find you so interesting. I mean the second one seems valid but I just keep getting my heart broken. I thought at my age I would be closer to love but there goes another failed talking stage. I would like to work on this but perhaps they are trying to be nice they just end up ghosting me and I never get a real reason. I haven’t given up just yet but let’s say my pillow is soaking wet at the moment.