Is no sex/non reciprocal sex enough of a reason to break up? I feel unloved because of the sheer disregard to my body and pleasure.
My partner (M25) and I have been together for 6 years, we have a child together. We aren’t married, he doesn’t “see” us ever getting married. His usual nights are spent out with friends, when he comes home and goes straight to bed.
I have an okay body, it’s the same body he fell in love with, but when this began I did start going to the gym and pushing myself to get more in shape.
When we do have sex, it’s one sided, I’m left unfinished because he barely even touches me. I feel selfish for saying it but the sex is so so bad and so clearly just for him. We’ve talked about it, he just goes to bed or gets angry by it being brought up.
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Damn, sorry you feel this way. In these cases I usually suggest for you to go and find someone else but since you guys have a kid together, probably couples therapy 🙂
It doesn’t sound like sex would be the only reason.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a difficult time in your relationship. Sexual intimacy is an important aspect of any romantic relationship, and it’s understandable that you feel unloved and neglected when your partner disregards your body and pleasure.
While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether or not to end the relationship, it’s important to consider whether your needs and desires are being met in the relationship. A healthy relationship involves mutual respect, communication, and consideration for each other’s feelings and desires.
If your partner is unwilling to address your concerns or work on improving your sexual relationship, it may be a sign that they are not invested in the relationship and may not prioritize your needs. Additionally, his lack of interest in getting married or spending time with you may also indicate a lack of commitment to the relationship.
I encourage you to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how you feel and what you need from the relationship. If he is unwilling to make changes or address your concerns, it may be time to consider whether the relationship is meeting your needs and whether it’s worth continuing. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you, and who is committed to meeting your needs and desires.
He spends most nights out instead of helping with your child, uses you as a human flashlight, and gets angry when you try to communicate.
What are you trying to salvage here?
He has checked out.
I’m not sure there is anything to save.