For some background, my boyfriend and I have been having sex kinda regularly for about a month now. Both of us are quite inexperienced, so we don’t really know what we’re doing. It’s nice exploring with him and fumbling about trying to figure out what makes the other feel good. He’s very attentive and consistently asks me if there’s anything thing I want to try or if there’s anything thing he could do better. However, in all the times we’ve had sex, I haven’t came. It doesn’t really bother me because we’re still inexperienced and I feel like it’s gonna take a lot of trial and error to figure out what works for me. On the other hand, it makes my boyfriend kind of insecure. He doesn’t feel like he’s pleasuring me if I don’t cum. I try to tell him that feels good in the moment, and I wouldn’t want to have sex with him if it didn’t feel good. This only falls on deaf ears.
I would say, sex doesn’t feel as good as I would like it to feel. Woman who don’t cum at least feel the climb to where It feels like they’re about to orgasm, but I don’t feel that at all. He’s tried giving me head and it was OK but I didn’t feel the climb during that either. Of course, I would love to orgasm during sex, but I’m not even sure what to try. Every time he asks me what he could do better, I have no idea what to tell him. I’m not really sure what great head or sex is supposed to feel like. At this point, I feel like I’m trying to cum and I get a little too much in my head. It just feels kind of enjoyable, but I want to know how to make it feel great.
Does anyone have any suggestions for positions or techniques we can try? I feel like I have a better shot at orgasming from head so I would appreciate tips for eating pussy that I can pass along to him. Tips for sex in general are appreciated though.
Some random details that might be useful:
– His dick a bit on the bigger side, so fitting him inside me was initially a struggle. I’m worried that this is why it doesn’t feel as good as it can.
– I am not particularly flexible and definitely not athletic so some positions are a no go for me.
– We’ve only tried missionary and doggy. I think I liked doggy more out of the two.
– He’ll randomly do something where I’m like oh that feels really good and then it’ll switch up so quick that I forgot what exactly it was that made me feel good.
– I have orgasm before on my own when masturbating but I don’t really know how to translate what I do for him.
Tl;Dr: looking for things to try during sex or oral that would improve my experience.
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Three positions with the best chance of woman orgasming from my experience with multiple partners:
— Clitoral sucking. Just get down there and suck, as if you’re sucking an ice cream shake through a straw.
— Missionary with her legs up on his shoulders. Deep penetration, hits the a-spot. Optionally, drop one leg down and twist a bit to the side.
— Doggy, with her head down low and legs spread to the height to line up properly. Hold on to the headboard and push back.
Between those three, you should be able to make it happen
Not everyone orgasms during penetration. Try doggy with a vibrator on your clitoris.
If you are trying to climax during intercourse, one of you has to rub the clitoris during penetration. Or, do oral before intercourse so you come once before he enters you.
How do you make yourself come? You have to show him what you do.
Use a vibrator on your clit while you are having sex.