How do you deal with people who take more than they give in a relationship? I have a friend who does this as well as my older brother. It just seems like what they want is way more important than what I want. I struggle talking to them about this stuff because I feel like I’m being selfish by telling them “give me what I want more often.”
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Read the book “not nice” by Dr aziz gazipura. It will help you set boundaries and defend them!
That’s a really tough one. I think the first thing to do is to start by acknowledging that you have needs and preferences too. You’re not being selfish for expressing them, it’s only natural that you want to be reciprocated just like they do. It might help to think of it in terms of a “give and take” rather than a one-way street. You can also try setting clear boundaries and expectations for the relationship. Let them know what you need and what your expectations are in order for the relationship to be balanced and healthy. Communication is key!