Hey everyone.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months now.
Our sex life is rather fcking boring to be honest.
For example i’m used to rough hard sex, and disrespectful to a certain degree as in pulling hair and slapping.
But with my partner italways starts with me giving her head till she cums. Into missionary and then a position or 2 more. We can’t do certain positions because of the height difference & that my penis is quite large so it hurts her.
We only have sex in bed aswel. Don’t get me wrong it feels amazing, but its just so damn predictable and boring.
It got to a point where i just rather masturbate and get over with it.
I haven’t initiated sex for 2 weeks now and every time she initiates something i just give her head till she cums and i mind my business again. I don’t know what to do with this. So any advice is welcome.
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Have you tried talking to her?
You sound awkward as hell and if anything bordering on insensitive. Get your shit figured out, or move on, because if literally sex going your way 💯 is the only thing that makes the relationship worthwhile, hate to break it to you but you’re already living a lie.
That’s just my take, but idk like that other person above me said, you should be able to communicate. Also you’re coming off a little narcissistic.
Yeah you gotta sit her down and be very polite, tell her that you love (do you?lmao) / like her and you want to explore more in bed, (you can say something like “im really attracted to you and want to do all kinds of things with you and explore new positions with you, it may seem like a compliment to her if you bring up how much you want to do it with this exact person) and have more adventurous sex. Emphasis on how important this is to you
The lack of self awareness in this post is unbelievable
Talk to her
No you should find someone who is equally as um, uniquely needy as you.
I’ve never really gotten the Gonzo sex attitude, slapping, choking, pulling hair and hard f****** a smaller person.
It just seems really just all about you, and rather humiliating to your partner.
I’m wondering if you have ever submitted yourself to someone much bigger than you for choking, slapping and hard f***ing with something much bigger than you were able to take.
I recommend you leave this woman and go find someone bigger to take you for a ride and come back with an update.
I think you’re misunderstanding how love and sex works. It’s a 2 way street. You want great sex and all but you need stimulation and I’m not just talking physical.
Have you tried doing activities you both love. Do you have shared interests? Shared values? Can you connect with her on a deeper emotional level. Do you show affection to her in public? Have you tried turning her on in other places besides the bed? Do you actually care about this girl? If the answer to all these questions is no, then sex will probably not get better and you should question why you’re even with her. If you can hit yes to all of these I guarantee her libido will be cranked to max and both the quality and quantity of sex will improve.
That said, based on your post you seem like an asshole that wants it all with minimal effort.
‘It Hurts her’ how big is your dik?💀
You need to talk to her. She’s probably not enjoying it either tbh.
You want to hit your girlfriend because it turns you on.
MOST women are okay with (and enjoy it) that from time to time but MOST women don’t want to be slapped/choked etc every single time.
As others have said, either get used to it, or find someone who wants to be humiliated all the time.
My last parter loved to be choked etc sometimes it turned her on a lot…but we did it many other ways too