Hi, first off i know looks aren’t everything but i’m genuinely curious about this.
I was with this girl and honestly when i first met her i just saw her as normal looking. Not unattractive, but also not ‘wow’. Just like any other girl but my type, so a little above average. The first few dates this stayed the same, i found her attractive but nothing amazing. Then as i started to fall for her (which was right before she ended things with me…great timing) i started to see her as super attractive.
Now in my mind she’s the most attractive person on this planet, and i have no idea why. I also compare other girls to her, and she always wins. I think even a supermodel would lose against her at this point. I showed my friends pictures and they say she’s a 6/7, and i’m thinking are you out of your mind?? Whereas when i started dating her i saw her that same way, attractive but nothing special.
I think the rejection may add to this too? Is this just your mind playing tricks? I wonder if i’ll ever find a girl attractive like i do her again?
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Of course. That’s what I mean when I say I’m tired of the stereotype that “Men are visual creatures” like that’s the only metric we judge beauty. Emotional attraction plays a big part for us too.
Yeah, that’s pretty much just classic infatuation. I’m certain that you both not being together exasperates it. The heart wants what it doesn’t have, I suppose.
Yep, that’s totally normal.
falling for a girl is the only way I will find her attractive myself.
Absolutely.
Yes. Their little imperfections become bespoke beauty.
Yup
Guys idealize women when we fall for them. It’s evolutionary. That’s what you’re feeling right now.
Enjoy it for what it is. It’s a hell of a ride. But know that this could be an illusion, and be prepared to deal with that if the time comes.