What is the longest time you had a crush on someone and didn’t tell them?

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1. 8 years….and still going

2. From Kindergarten all the way up to high school graduation so… Approximately 13 years, I guess.

3. A month or two? When I get a crush I spend some time figuring out if I actually want a relationship with the person or if I just want to enjoy the feeling of having a crush. And once I decide on the former I tell them.

4. Eight months and still going. I won’t say anything because they’re married and I keep hoping it’ll go away. Aside from that usually a month or two and then we’re dating.

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5. About 5 years but see them infrequently, maybe every 5 months or so – they’re in a long term relationship and my feelings aren’t strong enough to consider confessing, although I’m very sure they’re reciprocated.

6. 18 years

7. Ugh – probably 10 years. Had a crush on him since we were kids and I just hid it for years and then it festered and I admitted it but at that point we were different people and I looked like a fool.

8. I haven’t told Brent Spiner yet, so about 30 years so far.

9. Like a year and a half, he was an older guy at my uni and knew he wouldn’t look at me so i was just crushing from afar. We were never friends or anything

10. 4 years 😨😭💀 fifth grade to eighth grade

11. Going on 15 years 😬

12. 3 years. I didn’t tell him until he told me he liked Me 😂

13. i think 10/11 months. but we’re together now 🙂

14. 9 months. Lol

15. Three years! I finally told him and now we’re together and it’s the best thing in the world

16. Well… 17 years 🙄 Lol. I married him in the end though and no it’s not the fairytale it sounds like, but he did give me my son which I’m happy for 😁

17. 12 years and counting

18. About 5 years. No point telling her because we wouldn’t be able to have a relationship and I don’t want to ruin our friendship.

19. Over a year. I had a boyfriend, and even though things were going horribly with us, I didn’t want to hurt him like that because it was his friend I had a crush on. That crush morphed into a genuine desire but I still kept it to myself so as not to hurt my boyfriend (I was too nice, that guy treated me like shit)

    After we broke up, I STILL kept my feelings to myself because I wasn’t sure if it was just the desire for a genuinely nice guy like him or if it was just him, period if that makes sense.

    We eventually did hook up after a night of drinking.

    We’ve been together 6 years, married for 2! Guess that crush was for real lol

20. 5 years. High school crush on a friend, but he had been dating this other girl for years and I totally thought they were gonna end up married, so never said or did anything about it. We weren’t super close or anything, he was more of a friend of a friend that I was friendly with. 2020 hits, we’re all in college, his gf cheats on him, he spends a lot more time with the friend group, we get really close, we both spill that we like each other a lot, boom been dating for almost two years now.

21. 2 years until he got a girlfriend and I knew it has to be over. He didn’t like me back

22. Like two years or so. It was also the very first crush I’ve ever had

23. On and off for 5 years. He’s gay so I never bothered telling him but I think I was also avoiding the rejection. We’re still good friends after nearly another 4 years and I laugh about it with our other friends. As far as I’m aware he still doesn’t know lol

24. I had a crush on Adam Levine since I first heard Songs About Jane when I was like 5. After seeing him in concert in 2019 I got the ick, so about 15 years. Lol

25. Like 10 years and then he died 😭😭😭😭😭😭 so idk who needs to hear this but SAY SOMETHING. I felt so bad when he passed away and I was devastated and didn’t feel like I had a right to be upset because he didn’t know I thought he was like, my soulmate.

26. 3 years. She had a girlfriend and I’d never want to interfere with that.

27. 5 years

28. 9 years. It started when I was in my 6th grade. I have a crush on one of my classmate. I didn’t tell him until we enter university. Turn out the boy also had the same feeling for me. We dated for a short time and then break up.

29. Too long lol

30. 7th grade to junior year

31. 5 years. Had/have a crush on my beat friend. A year ago we decided to move in together, and I admitted that I had a crush on her this whole time. Turns out she did too! She just didn’t get my hints and I didn’t get hers.

    We’re not dating, tho. We both agree that we’d make a horrible couple and I’m engaged to someone else, so.. But it was still fun to discover.

32. Years

33. 20 years. Told him last January. Terrible idea. Wouldn’t recommend.

34. I’ve never told someone I had a crush on them!! Idk what they longest crush I’ve had is probably about 6 months…

35. 16 years / she said no

36. 7 years:(

37. From 5th grade until we left for college. I still have no idea if he knew I was basically in love with him. We are Facebook friends and both happily married. I of course no longer have those feelings for him but it’s crazy to think of how long I pined after him!

38. A few months. Every time I wanted to tell him, I panicked until I found out he had a girlfriend.

39. 11 months! I knew him for a year , finally confessed my feelings , now we are together>:)

40. 9 years 😉

41. 3 years fml. don’t do it. get out early

42. Over a year. I think that person could tell, I’m not very good at hiding my feelings. They say the eyes don’t lie.