I want to say out right I haven’t been the best husband to my wife. I’ve never hit oer or call her dirty names but I have been absent for awhile due to severe depression. On top of that I lost 3 people very dear to me last year. It was hard very hard. She started seeing a high-school friend and ended up there.she told me 3 months ago. I haven’t left and I want to make this marriage work because I love her immensely. And I’m still in love with her. We have 2 little ones as well. But I am hurt very hurt. I’ve never felt pain or weight like this. Am I wrong to still love her? Am I a good man for sticking through this? I’m angry and I’m hurt. There has not been one day that I haven’t thought about it. I feel almost hollow. And I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing. I am a good man. I. A gentleman. I would never intentionally hurt her. That’s another reason I’m here we have a huge family and she would be hated and despised if this ever came out. Idk what to feel I’m trying to trust her and she really seems to regret it. She seems miserable with herself and that hurts me too.
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60-70 percent of marriages survive an affair, but a spouse that has cheated is three times more likely to cheat again. Since cheating happens around 20% of the time, 60% of cheaters do it again. I would walk.
I’m sorry. Some couples get through this but it takes a lot of work. Your feelings are not wrong, neither the pain nor the love. There’s no right answer for you that anyone can tell you from the outside. r/survivinginfidelity r/asoneafterinfidelity
Take a look at this OP and goos luck.
https://www.brides.com/the-one-way-to-know-your-marriage-will-survive-an-affair-1102868
Hopefully, you are both in counseling.