Gf and I have had talks about why she doesn’t give me head as much as I eat her out. She mentioned she doesn’t get much out of it in return but she likes it better when we do 69 (because she’s also getting sexual stimulation). I explained I like eating her out so much, not because I get sexual stimulation out of it, but because it sexually arouses me to watch and feel her reactions. She reciprocated the same thing. But she feels embarrassed when giving head because she doesn’t know what to do. I’ve tried to give pointers. But… I’ve never given head as a guy so idk wth I’m doing either?😂 So we’re just looking for tips on head/deepthroating/throat fucking.
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Grab the back of her and throat fuck her. That part she needs to not do much
Okay coming from a girl’s perspective here’s some things that I personally like that make me feel a lil more comfortable or confident
– verbal encouragement. Ik a lot of people got the good old praise kink but even just saying “you make me feel so good” instantly gets me going
– along the same lines verbally communicate what u need.
-switching up the positions u give bjs helps. Standing, kneeling, sitting, on top. But switch it up. Some require less involvement than you think
– for throat fucking start slow and then speed up. Like don’t immediately destroy this persons throat (throwing up isn’t fun)
– Person getting throat fucked relax jaw and don’t try to make the usual sucking face cause that just throws off everyone. Just let the dick do the dick thing.
– also take a break if u need it. Ik giving head can be exhausting so just take a break to do something else in between or stop all together if it’s overwhelming. That’s really okay.
I hope I helped in some way. Hope you enjoy your improved blowjobs 🙃🤭
Weird suggestion here but… go on a site like PornHub and watch a blowjob tutorial video. There are a shit ton of them out there.
My wife and I use PornHub as inspiration to spice things up and it works wonders lol
It has to be a teamwork between you two even of she’s the one giving head. Meaning, you have to guide her and let her know what feels good for you too.
– start off with which spots are sensitive and extremely sensual for you, that way she can focus on that when she gives you head.
– Be more encouraging and vocal. You have to guide her and tell her if you like what she’s trying out or experimenting on you. That way, it might alleviate her embarrassment.
– let her know what type of pressure you like, do you like it when she sucks your whole cock, sucks on just the tip, or maybe lick the tip while sucking a few inches of it? What speed do you like, how much pressure with her hands and/or mouth works for you?
– also if you feel that she did a technique really well, give some affirmation like moan, groan, or breath heavily. When I experiment with my boyfriend, he always says things like “that’s so good… You’re so hot… Your mouth is so hot…”
– do you like it of she deep throats or swallows? If you find it hot and if she finds it comfortable to do that, try that out as well.
– I personally find it hot when my boyfriend kisses me or makes out with me between or after blowjobs, especially after swallowing his load. I personally feel desired and feel like he’s not disgusted with his own cum and that turns me on. Those little things.
Personally, I realized I love giving head and really enjoy it, but it’s also because my partner is responsive and gives me tips and advice on the things he wants. So we now both enjoy it cause the sounds he makes are also turning me on.
It will be an exploration for you both. Good luck!
Ok mabey not exacly what you are looking for but i love to do this while giving head. She could sit on a dildo and stimulate herself while sucking you. My bf and i think its pretty hot:)
OP, try giving head to a guy so you can learn more. You can then pass along what you learned to your girlfriend.
Okay so the key here is definitely good communication, give her verbal encouragement when she’s doing something you like and praise her for her efforts. If she’s never done this before then you can’t expect her to jump into deep throating straight away, that’s something she’ll need to work up to, even if she just focuses on the tip for now and uses her hands for the rest (lube helps) that’s still better than nothing.
Also I can’t stress enough how important the verbal communication is, it’s so awkward when you’re giving head to someone and they either sit there in complete silence or they just smile at you, you need to give her something to work with so that she knows what actually feels good for you.
Me and my wife have been pleasuring each other when she gives a blow job. When my wife’s mouth needs a break I will neck her and rub her clit and make her turn on this causes a hot cycle of her wanting to suck my cock more. My advice takes turns pleasuring each other
Don’t ever give head again
Quite simply, fuck around and find out. You’re going to know what feels good because it’s your cock so play around with it. It’s fun and you’ll have better communication between the two of you if you do exercises like that.
If you don’t know where to start , try watching a POV blowjob together and have her mimic what’s going on.
So much good advice here. I would add that practicing with a dildo is a great way to work on deep throating at your own speed. I like to suck on the dildo while I watch porn and finger myself. This has really helped me get better at sucking cock and has, because of the masturbation, associated me getting off with sucking cock. So that was a bonus. 😍
Read the book Blow Him Away. Very helpful!
I think it takes some experimentation to figure out what’s comfortable for her and enjoyable for you. But here’s some tips for her and anyone else that is uncertain of what to do.
1. Try different angles for sucking that d. Some guys junk is angled different so it might not be comfortable in the mouth/ throat! So if it’s angled up maybe try a position where you’re angled downward sucking. If it’s down angle up etc.
2. Don’t be afraid of spit. It helps lubricate as well as adds more of a sucking sound that drives guys insane.
3. Work the tongue as much as possible. While bobbing on the shaft slide the tongue under and move it side to side, flick, etc.
4. This is a personal preference thing but play around with the balls. Some guys love their balls being played with during and some don’t. Some like a little tongue play on the balls some don’t.
5. Give eye contact. It makes blow jobs feel more intimate plus is hot to see how you’re affecting your partner.
6. Make sure there’s zero teeth dragging while it’s happening.
7. Make it a show sometimes. You don’t have to be a suck machine the entire time. You can hold it while jacking and lick up and down the shaft, kiss the tip, etc. Anything to show you’re into what you’re doing.
Everything else has to kind of be learned from experience but hope this helped a little!
Look up Gluck Gluck 9000. Can’t believe I’m the first person to mention this.
Don’t actually suck. Don’t squeeze with your mouth. Open and slide it in far then take it almost all the way out then go back down. Breathe through your nose. Once it’s all wet add a hand and stroke a few times, then cup the balls and slightly rub them and go back to what you were doing before. Feel what youre doing, notice how his body reacts. Let him see you smile through it here and there when you know it feels good to him. To finish, when it hits the back of your throat and stops, push just a tad harder till it ‘pops’ past then come back and do it again a few quick times till you need a break. When it ‘pops’ futher back, that’s a deep throat. I can only get mine to do that when he’s laying down and I’m between his legs. If you don’t want to swallow, that’s a good time to hop on top. Sometimes when I’m down there I’ll have my right hand under myself with a clit toy, but you can’t use your left to do anything but hold your self up. I’ll start to zone out when I have my toy and he can real slightly thrust while the dick is deep in my throat and I can take it easily because I’m blissfully cumming in my own world at that point.
The first and most important thing is whether you (the gf) enthusiastically want it. Sexual activity should be a mutually enjoyable experience. Not a performance for your partner. And if you’re not being sexually satisfied it can dramatically impact your libido.
If you do genuinely enjoy and desire oral sex: build anticipation, through things like massaging legs, running fingers up thighs and slowly kissing all over. Use your tongue. Licking around his thighs, testicles, shaft, and watching his reactions. Go slowly and experiment with depth, pressure, suction, etc.
If you’re unsure of where to begin, watch him masterbate. Pay attention to stroke length and speed. That can give you an idea of how to move your head. All men are different and there’s no one way to pleasure somebody. Your partner needs to communicate and give feedback about what feels good.
The only “right” kind of oral is mutually enthusiastically consensual oral. Remember, you **never** have to participate in something you aren’t comfortable doing. Deepthroating, head and throat fcking can all cause serious injuries or even death. **Do not** do this unless you (the gf) really, really want to and have a very respectful, careful, caring partner. Remember, porn *is not* reflective of reality. And if you’re ever being pressured into something you don’t want, please reach out to somebody for support.
As long as you’ve talked about it before hand, a finger in the butt during the BJ can be incredible. Have your palm up facing toward you, 1 or 2 fingers depending on what he’s up for. Slight rocking back and forth with a “come hither” motion…
What I do is start with licking the head, gripping the shaft. I swirl my tongue around the head and then go down deeper. I cover my teeth with my lips and squeeze with my lips while going up and down. I gag sometimes but I always try to go deeper and lick around as I go up and down. I also hum while doing it and he enjoys that. I think it’s fun because I’m making him moan and feel good.
Hum the tune of “Rainbow Connection” while bobbing. If you need more intensity I suggest “Du Hast”.