I (M26) recently got into a relationship with my girlfriend just this month. We have fun, like seeing and spending time with each other, standard stuff. But otherwise, we don’t message a lot. We don’t mandate messaging every day, or even having long conversations, we’ll just send memes every so often or talk about how bad work was that day if it was particularly bad. I’m autistic and don’t really understand the rules of communication and somehow it feels like I’m not measuring up
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If you’re both comfortable with it, then that’s fine. It’s only bad if one of you has a problem with the amount of communication.
Fellow autistic M26. First off, congrats! Second, if she’s into you and wants to spend time with you then you don’t need to worry about texting her as often as lots of other couples would. Some women are into that and others aren’t.
If nothing else, just ask her irl if she‘s ok with the amount of messaging that you’re doing. At this stage in your relationship that’s a totally valid thing to establish.
If you’re happy and the sex is good then who cares about mundane messages 😂
Seems like a normal communicate pattern to me. Just keep doing what your doing.
how do you feel about it? if you’re okay with it then thats fine.
No, man it’s a pretty normal lifecycle. Don’t try to compare your date with social media webseries or KJs film, you will get into a fomo.
Just chill and go with the flow, try spicing out things.
Hey guys, I don’t want to use online dating apps. I’m more of an old school person. But apart from my job I don’t have any other community. Suggest me how I may meet new people?
Nothing wrong with wanting to stockpile the conversations for in-person meets
Ask the other person how things are going, and if they like the amount of in-between communication, or want more or less.
Every person is different so no one else can answer on your partner’s behalf.
I’m looking at you, OP. My autistic daughter is level 3…but highly aware and gifted. How do I help her.
My boyfriend also is very much an introvert and wasn’t used to texting a lot. We talked about it early on in our relationship and eventually figured out a sweet spot.. I suggest telling your girl your thoughts. Like, just wanted to know how you feel about texting in between hangouts cuz I know everyone’s different.. just start a conversation about it.
Don’t worry about it. It’s the interactions in person that really matter.