I’m a 21-year-old male in college and I’ve found it a bit difficult to fit in well into a lot of male groups due to me not really being able to understand banter/trash-talking well.
For starters, I’m usually considered kind and wholesome (their words) so it apparently catches them off guard whenever I attempt to engage in it. If I say something that’s mild, it will still offend or confuse them because I lack the same “rapport” with them, even though I tough it out through much worse banter thrown towards me.
The other issue is that even if I say something that comes across as funny to the other guys, I worry that deep down, I’ve poked at someone’s insecurities or self-esteem. I honestly can’t imagine myself being happy if I was in a group but called fat, dumb, cringe, etc., but a lot of guys like this type of banter.
Is it normal to not be comfortable with banter or am I just being overly sensitive?
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Yeah I felt the same way when I joined a group in college but for a different reason, Tried to fit into a couple of groups but I just couldn’t relate to their excessive talking about video games, tv shows, etc. I haven’t joined another group since. Not sure how I can help you in this one if you wish to stay in the group.