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Looking for advice
Im a 20 year old guy I’m looking to finally give up and let go of trying to find a relationship or love. I’ve never really had any experiences dating or doing anything intimate but I feel like I need to just let go in order to preserve my mental health. Unfortunately as most young men have, I’ve been exposed to a lot of toxic videos, ideologies, and content creators who luckily, I knew they were lying and that they were unhinged. I consider myself lucky because I want brainwashed as other young man have been but it did still take a toll on my mental health. I always keep overthinking things and having negative thoughts about myself which keeps feeding my insecurities. I’m doing the first part well and controlling the things I can work in right now in my life. I’m focusing on my college academic work, Working part time at my job and hopefully starting my new Internship soon!
My question basically is how do I stay contempt being single for life once and for all and focus on other things as I get older?
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Personally I think making such an absolute decision to be alone forever is probably long term going make it hard to be content.
In my opinion the best way to be content is to focus on what’s going to make you happy and move your life forward and choosing to actively do the things you want in life. So choosing to focus on your studies, getting a great internship and pursuing your interests thats all awesome. In focusing on making your life better and pursuing what makes you happy you can be content but at the same time meet new people and open up the possibility of new friendships, opportunities and potentially dates. Just because you aren’t dating now it doesn’t mean you have to be unhappy or alone.
You’re being overdramatic. Focus on your work and stop acting like you’ve been condemned to being alone.
You’re fresh off being an awkward teen. Stop sitting around watching videos and go make some social opportunity for yourself.