What is a brutal truth about relationships?

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1. They don’t fix people.

2. They end.

3. They won’t fix your insecurities

4. All relationships that don’t end in marriage are just experience. Learn from them.

5. Love won’t save deep insecurities or incompatibility

6. That no matter how much love, respect, kindness, commitment, and chemistry there is, relationships are fucking hard. It takes an immense amount of effort on all parties to keep a healthy relationship flourishing for the long term. It’s worth it, but it’s definitely hard work.

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8. They are not a necessity. It will not kill you to be single.

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10. They’ll trigger every childhood wound you have.

11. You can both do nothing wrong and it can still end in a disaster.

12. Every relationship is individual to the people involved. Success and failure depend on everyone involved. If your relationship isn’t working for you or fulfilling for you, it’s your responsibility to communicate about that and decide whether or not it is the right relationship for you. If your relationship is a constant struggle, be honest with yourself that you are choosing that struggle.

13. No matter how compatible you may think you are in every way, relationships aren’t perfect or easy. Effort needs to be put in from both partners.

14. Their are days when the love is strong and others when the love is very weak

15. They can be the right person, but the time will never be right.

16. There is more to life than just romantic relationships. Other relationships types are just as important to have, work on and maintain.

17. They never last and you’ll always like the other person more than they like you

18. Love is not enough

19. That relationships are not selfish and actually require a lot of individual sacrifice.

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21. No matter how hard you work to save it/fix it/change it, if the other person won’t do anything, you have to walk away. You have to accept who the person is not who they could be.

22. There’s no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. Sometimes it’s 55/45, sometimes it’s 90/10, sometimes it’s 60/40. Very very rarely is it 50/50, and even on those rare occasions it’s not sustainable.

23. You’ll hurt each other and learn from that to strengthen the relationship

24. Sometimes they suck.

25. One person always loves the other one more

26. They are hard work. They can sometimes rob you more of your piece of mind when trying to please the other person. I’ve been learning to prioritize myself too

27. That they end.

28. If they harm your mental health, they aren’t worth it.

29. Love is a choice, not a feeling. You will need to CHOOSE to continue loving. Also, loving someone and living with them are two completely different things.