The guy I have been seeing (3-4 times) asked to see me yesterday with just one hours notice! i was flattered he wanted to see me and wish I could but I need a shower , and had errands to run. He said to me if not today then he could see me Tuesday and i happily said yes
But he’s just been quiet and not spoke to me and I’m worried I have messed things up now ? Any advice 😢
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If you are interested in someone and they ask you out but you aren’t available that day, explain why you can’t go but offer an alternative. “Yeah, I can’t do that today but what about tomorrow or next week…”
Most folks take an unexpounded on “no” as an expression of disinterest.
Prioritizing your schedule and boundary (advanced notice) is actually the right thing to do.
If you let him know the timing was off but the offer appreciated, then he really shouldn’t be offended. Let him get back to you, and focus on enjoying your day.
Are you familiar with attachment theory? I think reading about anxious preoccupied attachment might help you recognize that the mental energy you’re spending anxiously analyzing him is not necessarily healthy or a good energy to put forth towards someone else.
If he likes you he will be back, if not don’t stress, you should learn to be happy with or without a person of interest so that it feels less vital and more like a wonderful enrichment. ☺️