DH was hungry and in a mood. Of course he started making food then I dropped food on the floor by accident and he freaked out and said he didn’t want to eat anymore. Then he didn’t eat his food until I apologized for yelling back but he should have apologized first for yelling first but of course he didn’t. So then it stopped for 5 minutes then he got to yelling at me for the food we have.
I’m doing my best with budgeting so we can afford our bills and house. I ask him every time we go to the store for the store list store budget but he always says he doesn’t know. That argument went on for 5 minutes then I just gave up I got tired of trying to tell him I’m doing my best to budget and afford bills w/o his help. I guess I won’t try anymore maybe he’ll realize how much I do for us? If I didn’t budget we would loose our house with his spending habits. I’m trying not to cry. I’m really upset. He’s just moved on like nothing just happened. Idk I love him but sometimes it’s very hard.
Explaining: I am out of work currently and looking for a job. I have interviews this week. So no I’m not lazy. My husband works full time but is really bad with money and also wants to spend it. He wants to go to Florida for a week, get a new car, but then I’m the ah for telling him logically we cannot do all three and afford bills, mortgage, and food. I’m budgeting. But it’s never enough. The food we buy is not up to par with him with the type of food and amount and tells me it’s garbage. I’m just doing my best to stay afloat y afford our more important bills. It’s important I add he grew up wealthy and I grew up poor. We also only make 1600 a month and more than half goes to bills/mortgage. So we have only 100 for food in this economy which is not a lot.
Any advice? I feel like most things make him angry. When I try to be reasonable and explain to him why I’m upset.
Update: he started burning himself on the stove cause I wasn’t answering him. I just want some space. I want to breathe.
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All I’ll say is start how you want to finish. This does not sound like how you want to finish. How many years will you wait to be appreciated? Tell him your peace, if he cant look in the mirror, he never will and this will be your life. You will always be the problem.
If you feel as if most things you do make him mad, then you’re burying the lede. This isn’t about you dropping food, this is about him treating you like garbage. What’s so good about him that you are putting up with this? (PS: He’s not *triggered*. Triggering is a mental health term for people with PTSD who flash back to bad earlier events. Your husband is just being an asshole to you?)
He’s misusing the term triggered as an excuse to abuse you. Emotional and it’s not the typical type, but financial abuse too. It sounds like he makes you miserable, so why live that way?
Burning himself on the stove Jesus Christ he has major, serious issues and is using them to emotionally manipulate you.
Please leave him.