So let me just start by saying that I don’t care if you watch porn or not in a relationship or single – if your partner doesn’t mind in a relationship and if you’re single, that’s your business. However, my issue is whenever I have told my boyfriend that I don’t like him watching porn because I am in the bed right next to him when he goes off into the bathroom to watch it instead of having sex with me that’s what my issue is and he doesn’t see it. He said that I should come onto him which I think is insane because I don’t have a high sex drive like him but I did tell him I don’t like you watching porn if you’re horny, just let me know and we can go have sexy time. I just had a baby nine months ago and I’ve caught him watching porn when I was pregnant. I told him I didn’t like it then. I caught him doing it last month and i was livid because I’m right next to him (he’s in the master bathroom, I’m in bed). I need advice on if I should actually really be mad. In my head I feel like it’s cheating watching naked girls and getting turned on then masturbating to it. Especially when I drew a boundary. I don’t know if he’s just not turned on by me or what. I need advice on what I should be doing because I’m honestly really upset.
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Whether he watched porn or not he’s gonna fantasize about other women. And so do 99.5% of other guys
Whenever he pulls out the phone to watch porn, initiate sex with him.
If that is a boundary for you, then control yourself. You cannot stop him from doing anything, but what you can control is your sexual and emotional relationship with him. Aka “If you keep going off to watch porn instead of having sex with me I will not be interested in having sex with you. It is a turn off for me”. It is up to you to stick to that boundary and decide what you will do if it doesn’t stop. Best of luck!