I don’t have too many real friends, never had, and I have noticed that people start avoiding me after some time, not many has to say anything negative about me but I feel like I’m quite whiny at times, no brought that up or critizized me, but people just tend to pay less and less attention to me even if they seem to show understanding at some point.
I surely hate that part of me I’d wish to be more positive…. Or at least less negative, I think people pitty me for that hence they never say what they think but rather distance themselves from me, maybe they don’t want to hurt me… and I surely understand it hurts me too that I’m that way, it keeps the cycle going, I surely don’t love myself too much, and blame myself for being bad influence for people, maybe I push them away before they get close at times too…
I surely want to upsoot this quality out of myself and I’m trying but I’d like to know what does it look like from your point of view? Am I delusional or am I onto something that makes sense?
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You need to ask people for their honest outright opinion, and make it very clear you want to hear the honest truth and won’t be a whiny child about it. Because there’s something you’re leaving out, how do you talk to people and what do you say? How do you respond when they tell you things about themselves? Do you ask about them? Because if they seem engaged from the get go and slowly stop then it is likely something you’re saying or doing/not doing. But that’s not all bad because that means you can fix it