I was alone in university for the most part because I have problems with social skills and fitting in, I also didn’t enjoy partying. Now I’m actually too scared to find a job because I’m afraid to be alone again. I’m so done being different and the one with hobbies and interests that nobody else have.
Is work different than university when it comes to social interactions or is it the same?
I’m close to just become a NEET and stay at home.
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You meet fewer people at work than at university, so yes it is different.
But it doesn’t need to be worse. You can have good coworkers to connect with and have a great time 🙂
I’ve found my job a few years ago and since then I’ve found it increasingly difficult to make friends, especially among my coworkers. Those who are older than me are already married with children, they do not have much time to socialize outside of the workplace.
When it comes to those who are from the same generation as me, it is a little bit easier to befriend them in my opinion. However I’ve got uncommon hobbies just like you have, and I am desperately trying to come with topics other than “what is your favorite Netflix show ?” or “what did you have for lunch on Saturday ?”
Keep in mind that loneliness is not necessary a consequence of your “lack of social skill”. It is indeed hard to find friends. My advice would be not to try too hard. You need to keep in mind that most of your workplace relationships are superficial. If one of these relationships does not meet your expectations, just let go. Just don’t be afraid to ask people questions that will show them your interest.