Current situation with husband. Both at fault for not speaking up sooner and not communicating. He is mostly stonewalling and ignoring me at the moment and I have decided to keep calm and carry on. I am anti drama and don’t play games. I admittedly am also hanging onto a fantasy that we will overcome our issues and make it out stronger. I treat him respectfully and am doing what I consider the right thing. It seems to be annoying him.
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I’m pretty sure the word you are looking for is toxic.
I’d call it killing him with kindness. Not exact, but cost enough.
In this case, I would call it spite.
Neither of you is communicating about the real issues you have, you are just ignoring the elephant in the living room, him by shutting down and you by pretending like everything is alright although it’s obviously not.
This situation can only go for so long until it all completely breaks down to the point where there’s nothing left to fix