I’m kind of socially awkward and shy so whenever I try to initiate a conversation, I overthink it and become way too scared to actually do it. So there are 2 guys who are close friends, and they have been sitting behind me in class for over a year already but I have never talked to them before as I find them intimidating and I’m scared that they will judge me if I talk to either of them. Any advice on how to overcome thisðŸ˜?
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Why do you feel judged? Do you judge yourself? – That’s what you need to work on.
As soon as you like yourself, it doesn’t matter what others think
Think about how much you are thinking about yourself. How you are being perceived, and how little you are judging them. Then remembered that most people are this way, slightly self conscious and so worried about looking weird they don’t even notice that you’re being weird.
That’s not to say there aren’t judgemental douchebags out there. If they start to say mean things or try to act superior to you just for you trying to initiate a conversation then instead of internalizing their view of you. Ask yourself if you even like them, and remember that most people are that way because they’re extremely insecure
I enjoy trying to chat with just about everyone, and in a place where I know there will be repeated times seeing them I don’t just dive into a trying to chat at first. Personally I’d just stay by a casual “sup fellas” with an upwards head nod as I was sitting down and then just business as usual.
Then future times you can just give the head nod and if something different happens like one of them wears some cool shoes or has a new bag then you can throw out a damn dude nice bag! Eventually expand that to casual a “man y’all doing anything good this weekend”. And that gives you a chance to get to know them
Just be chill. As someone who enjoys chatting with people, if someone just dives into trying to have a Convo out of nowhere it’s a little weird for be. So just work on showing people you see them and you’re cool