Hi, I(f25) had sex with a friend(m24) and I dont know how to feel about it. We’ve been hanging out for 2 months intensively, he is deeply in love with me, but Im not, although I enjoy his company very much, we always have fun and we get along a lot. He knows Im not ready for a commitment or anything serious, and still chooses to hang out with me. Hes giving me all the space I need, not being pushy or having expectations. We went from kissing to sex in two weeks(he always double checked my consent and I gave him green light most of the time). The sex was nice, I was horny the whole time, orgasmed a few times, but when I processed it afterwards, its not right in my mind, I was tense for a couple of minutes, it felt like the whole thing was totally unnecessary and like I chose to have sex with him out of impulse. Did anyone have a similar experience and if so, how did you deal with it, cause im pretty confused now.
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It sounds like you’re not that in to him, but get off on the idea of being desired by someone. It also sounds like he’s hoping you change your mind, and now he’s being led on.
Could be that it’s not the kind of relationship you want.
Maybe it’s weird because you know it won’t go anywhere.
Is it because he’s way more into you and you know it won’t go anywhere? Do you suspect that crossing this line ensures the relationship will end rather than adapt?
Some people can have sex with friends. Others, not so much. Is it that you aren’t able to separate sex from emotional connection? Or, that you know they can’t let it just be about sex?
There are thousands of possibilities as to why it’s just not feeling right to you. You will figure it out eventually.
Don’t feel bad. It’s just sex. People get horny.