Is it weird to be proposed to using a plain engagement ring, that is to say a ‘nothing special ring’ from your mans, grandmother, who is still alive, with dementia and who doesn’t even know that she’s no longer wearing the ring?
It’s not like it’s an heirloom ring, or a family tradition, or anything special in that way, just a small, (not the size of a stone is a concern just making the point that it’s nothing special), ring.
To me it feels weird. Bad omen. But hoping for some perspective
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No. It’s a piece of metal. Base it only on the person you are going to marry
He got you a free ring.
He could have cheaped-out.
He could have a different perspective of what a “nothing special” ring is.
You could be comparing the quality of the ring with how he thinks of you.
You could have set your expectations too high before he proposed.
He is giving you something belonging to his Grandmother because he wants it to stay in his family as you are about to become his family. Plain ring or not, it has meaning for him, I guarantee it.
I wouldn’t feel right about wearing the ring of a living woman without her informed consent/blessing.
I would feel icky if he took it without her consent, but other than that I think it’s a lovely gesture. My husband *adored* his grandmother – we named our daughter after her – if he had given me her ring I would have been thrilled.
Since it’s bothering you, why not ask him in a loving way what this ring means to him, why he chose it, etc. Might as well start out on the right foot with good communication.
Bad omen? Absolutely not. Why would it be? He gave you something connected to his Grandmother.
Is it possible he and his grandmother had spoken about him using the ring before? Like in a moment of lucidity or before the illness? My grandmother promised me her mom’s ring when I was young.