Sex question…

7 comments

1. Yes, there is nothing wrong with you if you can’t

2. Hell, you can not finish for all sorts of reasons. Being tired, for instance, or distracted.

   I think it is always worth pointing out the [Dual Control Model](https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/oh-joy-sex-toy-the-secret-brain-science-of-desire) of sexual desire. Some stuff accelerates desire, other stuff puts on the brakes.

   On top of that, what we find arousing can vary at times. Today, maybe it is oral sex. Tomorrow, maybe it is missionary position. This weekend, doggie style might just be occupying your mind and be a big turn-on, but later in the week it is just “meh.”

   It helps to understand that some things appeal to you and help you, and other things don’t. But not reaching your orgasm doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy the position, or that you find your partner unattractive. It just doesn’t trip your trigger.

   Contrast this with how women orgasm. Many women don’t orgasm from penis-into-vagina intercourse (PIV). They may prefer other ways, like being rubbed by their partner, or receiving cunnilingus. That they don’t orgasm from PIV in any given position doesn’t mean something is wrong; it just doesn’t trip their orgasm trigger.

3. A lot of men are sensitive to the precise feeling of a sex act, and some acts/positions are just not conducive to reaching orgasm. I’ve heard a few stories of men who had a lot of trouble reaching orgasm in actual sex because they had trained themselves to orgasm through masturbation, so they’d have to finish themselves. No reason that situation wouldn’t also apply to the different feelings from different positions. OR, as someone else suggested, there is a huge mental component to sex. If you aren’t into it for some reason, even subconsciously, that can torpedo the libido.

   Look at the bright side – you can go to TOWN on that thing and last as long as they like! Then flip them over and get yours.

   In short – nothing wrong with you.

4. Haven’t experienced that but I think we need more detail? Is something going on? Some guys can’t finish from oral, so this doesn’t sound so weird.

5. I think its well within the realm of normal…certain positions i cum pretty quickly in others it takes awhile or I really have to focus to cum.

6. Everyone is a little bit different. It’s changed since then, but I remember that I used to never be able to cum with any woman on top positions.

7. Nothing wrong with it. In my case it’s the only position that really works for me and my wife; it just feels better for both of us.