I (19F) am four months off my first love & first heartbreak (20NB). We were together for 2 years and had a fairly toxic relationship. However, I was madly in love with them, despite the pain of a lot of their actions. My ex has moved on and likes another girl. Also, from a mutual friend I know that they’ve hooked up. I feel like I’ve been stabbed in the gut. It’s been a while since I’ve recieved this news but the feeling has not subsided.
Advice for coping?
TL;DR Seeking advice for coping with an ex moving on and the idea of them having sex with another girl.
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Time. And rebounds. But mainly time.
The first person you are intimate with builds a bond that makes it hard when you separate. It’s not uncommon to feel this way because it’s an experience you had with a specific person and being intimate normally takes some work. Now that things have changed it’s easy to get frustrated, feel left out, or “stabbed in the guy.”
It’s a normal reaction. The tough part is living through it. A part of you may be jealous and another part may make you feel like you are missing out. Acknowledge those feelings, it’s ok, but then move past them. You have a new lease on life now, and if the relationship was toxic don’t forget all the bs that made it miserable. Now he’s somebody that you used to know[.](https://youtu.be/8UVNT4wvIGY)
Get involved in things that you like that maybe he never did. Go have fun with your friends, and focus on your hobbies. Once you start living again, you will care less and less about this guy. Good luck OP.
Sounds cliche but it really is time, distance, and keeping yourself distracted with better things. Two years is a long time together especially when you’re 19, so I’m not surprised you’re still getting over him.
Do you have people around you that you can hang out with? Any TV shows or movies that have been on your watch list for awhile?